4 Self-Sabotaging Habits to Avoid in 2022

4 Self-Sabotaging Habits to Avoid in 2022

Hard truth: society isn’t holding you back, your friends, and your job isn’t holding you back. The only thing holding you down is you. Below are 4 self-sabotaging habits to avoid in 2022. 

#1: Overeating  

Did you know that overeating is associated with disappointment and failure? Just think about it. Most highly successful people are in shape.  

A lot of times when you feel disappointed in life, you try to indulge in the sugary comfort of your favorite pint of ice cream in efforts to smother the pain.  When someone is feeling down in the dumps what do their friends do? “Girl, you need a drink!” “Girl, you want to talk about this over brunch, or I can come over grab your favorite bottle of wine and some wings?” 

Your mind tricks you into thinking that these comfort foods will numb the pain of disappointment and failure. Side-note: that’s why obesity is a poverty issue (we’ll dive into that another time.) If you want to have a better 2022, resist the urge to over indulge when you are feeling down, as you will need your energy and health to persevere through those hard times 

#2: Lying to Yourself 

Have you ever heard the saying, “The truth is much scarier than fiction?” People often lie to themselves to avoid being depressed or humiliated about their shortcomings. You want to know a little secret? 

 The only way to get more out of life is to be extremely honest with yourself. Where is your body at? Do you really need as many mental breaks as you are taking, or are you procrastinating? Do you have a plan to achieve success, or do you just say you’re going to be successful without putting any real consistent work in?  

 Be brutally honest with yourself, and have the courage to make the necessary changes so that you can transition from merely surviving to thriving. 

#3: Not Keeping Your Word 

When you go back on your word, you not only disappoint others, you disappoint yourself even more. A large part of self-confidence is being able to trust yourself. If you want to go to the next level in 2022 start doing what you said you would do. Start off small by telling yourself that you will spend 30 minutes working on achieving your short-term goals.  

Set a time for this activity each day and get it done. The more you complete what you say you’re going to complete the greater your confidence, and the more you’ll feel comfortable with having big and lavish dreams.  

  

#4: Low Expectations 

The last way you are self-sabotaging yourself is by having low expectations. Who can blame you. There are probably several occurrences where you had your hopes up high and you were filled with possibility and excitement only to be severely disappointed. 

 The trick to having high expectations is to work relentlessly to ensure your dreams will come to pass. In short: create your own luck. When you have the mindset to create your own luck, you’ll know that you can dream a dream as big as the universe is vastYou’ll get there; just put in the work.  

Thank you so much for reading! For more life hacks check out my audiobook Clean Mirrors. As always, share this with a friend who needs to hear this. We’ll talk soon.  

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27 Lessons in 27 Years

27 Lessons in 27 Years

With each trip around the sun, you get wiser and wiser. These are 27 tips that will change your life.  

    1. 1. We do not live in a world of absolutes. What works for your neighbor may not work for you.

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  1. 2. Do what others are too lazy to do. The rarer you are, the more valuable you are.  

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  1. 3. Say, “no” more than you say yes; your time is more valuable than you think.  

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  1. 4. Looks do matter. Strangers treat you according to your presentation. 

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  1. 5. If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck; then, it’s a duck. People are continuously showing you who they are. Pay attention. 

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  1. 6. Search diligently for what you are called to do. Those who are aimless are often perpetually depressed.  

  1. 7. Start off purchasing stock with companies you actually purchase from, such as: Apple, Meta(Facebook), Microsoft,  etc.  

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  1. 8. Don’t just start things, have the courage to complete them.  

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  1. 9. Teaching what you’ve learned is the best second stream of income. 

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  1. 10.  Just because your day started off bad doesn’t mean you have to be committed to ending it that way.  

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  1. 11.  If you want to change your life, make the first step the moment you think about it. If not, you’ll be procrastinating for a lifetime.  

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  1. 12.  If you are a liberal, read books by conservatives. If you are a conservative read stories about liberals. Remember: we do not live in a world of absolutes.  

  1.  13. The most attractive thing you can have is boundaries.  

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  1. 14.  If it looks like you’re succeeding without God, be careful, a fall is coming. 

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  1. 15.  Whoever you are in private is who you really are. 

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  1. 16.  Self-love is not how many spa days you can fit into one weekend. True self-love is how disciplined you can be in order to push your life forward. 

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  1. 17.  If he doesn’t reach out to you every single day – he doesn’t want you. 

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  1. 18. No response is a response. 

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  1. 19.  Inflation is real. If you are not making at least 2% more each year, you are losing money. 

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  1. 20.  Read your books aloud, so that when you are tasked to speak in public you will be well spoken.  

  

#4: Don't Get Drunk 

  1. 21.  Take that PTO. 

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  1. 22.  Neither intellect nor social skills will outwit the other. You must master both.   

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  1. 23.  After adolescence, your circumstances are a direct reflection of your choices.  

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  1. 24.  Your greatest investment will be in your character. If you don’t have good character, you cannot please God.  

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  1. 25. Gender roles may fluctuate, but the spirit of masculinity and femininity remain the same.  

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  1. 26.  Wishing is for losers. Put in work and prayer for what you want.  

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  1. 27.  Sometimes you will have to crawl to the finish line. Baby steps are better than no steps.  

Thank you so much for reading! For more life hacks check out my audiobook Clean Mirrors. As always, share this with a friend who needs to hear this. We’ll talk soon.  

4 Gifts That Won’t Break the Bank This Christmas

4 Gifts That Won’t Break the Bank This Christmas

Uh oh! It’s almost Christmas and you feel extremely unrepaired this year. Well, you’re not the only one. Below are four Christmas Gifts that won’t break the bank. 

#1:  Dive into Some Nostalgia 

You know what your mom would love much more than that expensive perfume? Her favorite family photo with a thoughtful quote on it. You can easily get this done at Walgreens and put it in a really nice frame. Mom’s go crazy over printed out photos of their loved ones. Save a few pennies this year and dive into the power of nostalgia.  

#2:  The More You Know   

We live in the information age, right? Well, instead of maxing out your credit card trying to buy your best friend that handbag you can’t afford. Gift her with her favorite hard back book. Virtually everyone is trying to build their own brand these days. So, get your bestie a book on that hobby she keeps procrastinating about getting back into. It’s extremely thoughtful and you’ll look like the friend who really studies and cares about the people around you.  

#3: A Fancy-ish Bottle of Wine 

Let’s face it. What millennial isn’t a winebibber with all the stresses of adulting rearing its ugly head every day. Since we are all secret lushes behind closed doors, why not use it as the perfect gift. Give your good girlfriend the holiday version of her favorite bottle of wine. It’s simple, cute, and will not go unnoticed.  

  

#4: Assorted Meats and Cheeses  

Take the charcuterie waive and make it mobile. Now, I will warn you, this is the type of gift you either bring to a party or you give it to your boss who you don’t really like. This is the gift that makes you look classy, because you were nice enough to simply not show up empty headed.  

Thank you so much for reading! For more life hacks check out my audiobook Clean Mirrors. As always, share this with a friend who needs to hear this. We’ll talk soon.  

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Cry a Little, Laugh a Lot: Message to Millennials

Cry a Little, Laugh a Lot: Message to Millennials

When was the last time you had a good laugh? Really, the type of laugh that makes your sides hurt. It’s time to cry a little, and laugh a lot. 

 Did you know, the average millennial feels behind in life? From being underpaid while working a 9-5, to hustle culture, to not being married before 30 – millennials are always expected to do, instead of just being.  

You should definitely be pursuing excellence, but below are four tips to enjoy life along the way. 

#1: Do the Unexpected 

Predictable equals ugly! Take a different route home, cook something different for dinner, or switch up your style. We live in a world today where everyone is talking about having a morning routine, face care routine, even a LIFE routine. 

While structure is needed, don’t forget to be a little spontaneous. No one likes predictable patty. Switch it up on people every now and again, and notice how much fun life can be. 

#2: Laugh at Yourself 

Did you accidently trip in public, or maybe a stranger caught you talking to yourself at the red light: laugh. 

Learning to laugh at yourself will take away at least half of your stress. You’re not perfect; that’s what makes you beautiful. Learn to love being a human being with quirks, flaws, and your own unique perspective. After all, different perspectives of the human experience are what makes life worth living. 

#3:  Find Something You Enjoy 

Escape the prison of working just to pay bills. Live! Life is too short to not do something you enjoy. When you have the courage to do what makes you happy, you instantly become a more joyous and gracious person. 

Do you like giving advice, are you extremely into fashion, or maybe you enjoy making other’s laugh? For the next seven days, study yourself and figure out what it is you truly enjoy, and have the courage to do it. 

  

#4:  Laugh on Purpose 

Don’t wait for laughter to find you, you have to go out and find it. Make laughing a priority. On your daily to-do list, right up there with working out and working on your brand, schedule time to watch a funny video, or talk to the friend who’s always cracking jokes. To be a person who doesn’t laugh is a life wasted. Laughter is good medicine; don’t forget your daily dose.  

Thank you so much for reading! For more life hacks check out my audiobook Clean Mirrors. As always, share this with a friend who needs to hear this. We’ll talk soon.  

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When More Sleep Won’t Fix it: The Real Reason You’re Always Tired

When More Sleep Won’t Fix it: The Real Reason You’re Always Tired

Are you sleeping more than usual? Do you still feel exhausted when you wake up? When more sleep won’t fix it, it’s time to take matters into your own hands. As the days get shorter and the nights get longer, feeling unmotivated and lazy becomes overwhelmingly seductive. Below are four real reasons you are always tired. 

#1:  You Procrastinate 

Did you know that when you procrastinate you actually are doing the activity TWICE? Simply thinking about your obligation emits energy; so, when you think but don’t act you are technically using your energy in vain, because you still have to use another dose of energy to actually complete your obligations.

So, instead of continuously thinking about what you should be doing, just go ahead and get your tasks completed. For more help on being more productive Click Here. The more you knock off your to-do list, the less tired you’ll feel the next day. 

#2:  You’re Depressed 

Whether it’s seasonal or situational, depression is notorious for sneaking in during the final stretch of the year. Get help. Consult a professional to figure out why you are depressed and how to navigate through it. If you’re routinely lounging around in bed past 9:30am you may not be “catching up on sleep;” you may secretly be depressed.  

#3: You’re Mentally Drained 

So many things require your attention. Hard pill to swallow: you’re mentally drained because you’re desperately trying to people-please. You can’t be everything to everybody. The real reason you’re always tired is because your mind is racing a mile a minute trying to stay afloat in the sea of unnecessary obligations. Learn to tell people, “No!” so that you can prioritize what’s actually important 

  

#4: You’re Aimless 

Diligence, preparation, and consistency are the fruit of focus. Being aimless makes you indulge in tasks that are a waste of your time. This is why you’re always tired, because you don’t really know what you’re pursuing in life. When you don’t know what you are pursuing you run the risk of being busy, but not productive. 

Your aimless “busyness” is what’s making you tired. In order to get your focus back check out chapter 4&5 of my audio book Clean Mirror. Get focused in your life, and notice how relaxed and at ease you’ll feel.

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The Lazy Friend: The Formula for Consistent Productivity

The Lazy Friend: The Formula for Consistent Productivity

Ring! Ring! Her alarm clock goes off; she reluctantly opens her eyes to hit snooze. It goes off again. Now, she rolls over, turns it off, and scrolls through social media. Her ex-boyfriend posts a picture with his new girlfriend, she laughs at how ugly the new girlfriend is, and likes the picture anyway. Now, she’s late for work.  

 

Is this you? Are you the lazy friend?  

 

Sometimes it’s easier to watch others live their lives instead of having the courage to live our own. Here are four simple mourning habits that will boost your productivity overnight.  

#1:  What Does Your Bed Look Like?  

This may be the most important step. Making your bed every morning makes it less desirable for you to hop back in it, because you don’t want to ruin your work. Also, making your bed creates this sense of accomplishment that will give you the momentum to want to complete another task. You’ll need this boost of determination for the next step. 

#2:  Do You Get Moving?  

Whether it’s for 3 minutes or 30 minutes moving your workouts to the morning gives you less time to talk yourself out of going to the gym.

 

 Working out in the morning also gives you the energy and enthusiasm you need to complete your tasks of the day. Not to mention, morning workouts also helps you look good.

 

 With the constant flow of blood carrying oxygen to your face, hair and skin you’ll have this amazing glow every time you walk into the office. As we all know. When you look good you feel good. We all want to be in better shape; so, tomorrow put the gym at the top of your to-do list.  

#3: Do You Eat Breakfast? 

 Eggs, a homemade smoothie, or a bowl of oatmeal are great examples of a breakfast that will give you energy throughout the day. Avoid things like muffins, sugary drinks, and breakfast sandwiches as they will make you feel sluggish and unmotivated throughout the day.

 

 Choosing a healthy breakfast also promotes brain activity so that when your 10am meeting rolls around you’ll be able to speak with diction and clarity as opposed to Marc (yes Marc with a “c”) in accounting who chose a McDonald’s breakfast sandwich for his morning meal.  

  

#4: Do You Follow Through with Your Lists?  

Everyone has been told to make lists to be more productive, but what if there is too much on your list and you get overwhelmed and decide to “Just do it tomorrow?” The trick to this is only put three tasks on your list per day.  

 


  1. Task #1: Do something for your mind. 

  1. Task #2: Do something for your body. 

  1. Task #3: Do something for your brand. 

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Tony Gaskins speaks about categorizing your productivity in the above manner, and I have found it to be exceptionally helpful. So, if you don’t want to be the one standing still and watching all of your friends soar past you, make sure to create a to-do list that is doable as well as productive.  

Thank you so much for reading! For more life hacks check out my audiobook Clean Mirrors. As always, share this with a friend who needs to hear this. We’ll talk soon.  

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From Tipsy to the Top: How to Drink at The Company Party

From Tipsy to the Top: How to Drink at The Company Party

Have you ever heard that while you’re at a company event you shouldn’t drink? Boooo! No one likes the buzz kill weirdo in the corner. As long as it’s after 5:30pm have a drink; just do it responsibly. Here’s how to go from tipsy to the top: how to drink at the company party.

#1: Start Off With a Glass of Wine/Champagne

This will make you look really classy before everyone let’s loose and get what they really want. Make sure to hold the glass by the stem, and only drink from one point of the cup. This will eliminate your finger prints being all over the cup and your lip stick being on multiple places of the rim. Remember: wine is always a safe zone. So, drink this before getting too comfortable. 

#2: Flirt With the Bartender 

Ladies, trust me, this works every time this will make the bartender make your drink EXTRA strong without you having to order extras to feel that buzz. This is a double win, because not only do you get a strong drink, but you also avoid looking like the alcoholic who can’t stay away from the bar.  

#3: Get an Exotic Drink

After you’ve had your first glass of wine, and everyone is beginning to let loose, ordering an exotic drink will set you apart from your coworkers. This is also where flirting with the bartender comes in handy, because you get to pick their brain about drinks you wouldn’t normally drink. Have the bartender make you something exotic that isn’t too sweet; but yet, strong and pretty. Everyone will want what you’re having, and you get to look like the super sophisticated coworker who knows her way around a bar.  

  

#4: Don't Get Drunk 

Oh, no! You just spotted Marc (yes Marc with a “c”) in accounting and he has the top three buttons of his shirt undone and his chest hairs are peeking over his barbeque stained wife beater. Oh, yea, and he’s DRUNK! Don’t be this person. Keep yourself at a two drink maximum. Whether you believe it or not, one of the higher-ups is always watching how you behave in this type of environment. Have fun, but be responsible. 

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The Other “F” Word: How to Unleash This Superpower

The Other "F" Word: How to Unleash This Superpower

Have you ever been around a woman that isn’t the prettiest, or best dressed, but somehow, she’s still the girl that all the guys adore and she seems to have this thriving social life? It’s not rocket science: she has simply mastered her feminine energy. Below are four tips to unleash this feminine superpower inside all of us.  

#1: Open Your Eyes

Listen more than you speak and observe before uttering a word. Pay attention to the way your friend gets quite when you crack a “friendly” joke. Notice when the barista’s demeanor changes when the line gets longer in Starbucks. A part of being feminine is seeing what others are too busy to notice so that you can provide comfort, warmth and understanding when it’s lacking. Being able to truly see others encourages people to feel safe in your presence and that nurturing spirit will make you the woman others can’t get enough of.  

#2: Practice Humility

Are you the friend on vacation that always takes the Master Suite? Do you “humble brag” – talking about your short comings that are actually strengths? Not only is this annoying, but it also communicates that you don’t know how to share the spotlight.

It has been said, “the loudest person in the room is often the most insecure.” When you know who you are you don’t have to prove it to anyone. Having quiet confidence is the foundation of true humility, because it gives you the freedom to strategically take the backseat without feeling like your ego is being threatened.  

#3:Grow in Wisdom

Wisdom skews under the femininity umbrella because it falls under the category of being and understanding; whereas, masculine energy focuses more on doing and production. So, in order to grow in wisdom, you’ll need three things: experience, knowledge, and the critical thinking skills to parallel what has already been established in nature versus the progression of human existence.  

  • Experience – This is the difference between theory and reality. Experience is what gives your voice credibility.  

  • Knowledge – Be a forever student. You cannot teach what you have not mastered. 

  • Recognize the Patterns in Nature – Have you noticed how a child’s experience in the womb is very similar to our experience with mother nature? Learning how to recognize age-old patterns in life will help you grow in wisdom.  

      

    #4: Show Some Gratitude 

    This can be an extension of humility. A simple, “Thank you.” and a smile goes a long way. As millennials we have somehow adopted this “deserving” spirit when in reality it’s much more attractive to show gratitude for even the smallest acts. 

     

    The next time your Uber waits the extra 5 minutes for you to arrive, thank them for waiting. The next time you are in an interview, look the attendees in their eyes and thank them for their time.  Instead of trying to prove your value to everyone, try walking around with a spirit of humble gratitude and notice how many friends you keep.  

    Thank you so much for reading! For more life hacks check out my audiobook Clean Mirrors. As always, share this with a friend who needs to hear this. We’ll talk soon.  

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    The Girl No One Likes: The Pretty Truth

    The Girl No One Likes: The Pretty Truth

    Is it hard for you to keep friends, a significant other (trust me I feel you on this one.), or do you consistently get looked over in your job? Maybe you’re the girl no one likes. Here’s the pretty truth: 

    #1:  Do You Take Up Space? 

    Shy and timid is so last season. Haven’t you heard? Confident and self-assured is in. No one likes the girl who blends into the background. It sends a signal that perhaps you don’t want to be seen. If you don’t want to even be seen then why should anyone else in the room respect you? 

      

     I know that sounds harsh, but that’s how people think. Whenever the temptation to shrink yourself begins to creep in and choke you; just remember, you are worthy to be in all high places and social events. Sit up Straight, shoulders back, and act like you’re somebody

    #2: Are You Thirsty? 

    Are we still using the word “thirsty” in 2021? Either way, don’t be it. Sometimes when we’ve experienced seasons of severe rejection, we tend to adopt the spirit of desperation. You know that group of girls don’t really like you; stop inserting yourself into their weekend fun. You know that job will replace you at the drop of a dime; stop working weekends trying to impress your higher-ups when you can use that energy to create something you can’t be fired from. We end up being so thirsty for a “yes” that we end up settling for a maybe. 

    Maybe this group of girls will finally accept me if I show them how funny and outgoing I am. Maybe if I work on weekends, it’ll show my boss that I’m worthy of a raise. The truth: people like those who have standards, not those who place their self-respect up for collateral. Have the courage to wait for your “yes” so that you can avoid being the thirsty girl no one respects.  

    #3: Do You Talk Too Much? 

    We’ve heard the saying, “Never show your cards first.” When you talk too much you could be offending someone with your strong opinion (I had to learn this the hard way), or you could be giving someone the blueprint to your heart prematurely. No one likes this girl, because she ruins the fun and mystery of getting to know her. 

    If you want to build and keep lasting relationships learn to listen more than you speak.  It is human nature to want to feel seen and heard. Use that to your advantage by allowing others to talk until their heart’s content. Then, you can be the one to decide if you like them, not the other way around. 

      

    #4: Can You Pass the Mirror Test ?

    We often see ourselves in a much brighter light than society does. For example, most women don’t know when they’re dressing promiscuous; they think it’s “cute/trendy.” Most people don’t realize when they’re being annoying; they think they’re just having fun. Get in the habit of seeing yourself from the outside in. The best way to do this is to people watch.  

     

    The next time you’re out at brunch or going for a walk. Look around you. Look at the girls who you would be friends with? How do they dress? How do they behave? Look at the girls who you would hate for your son to bring home. How do they dress? How do they behave? If you’re honest with yourself, which group do you look the most like? No one likes the girl who isn’t self-aware 

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    Make Them Say, “Yes!”: 4 Secrets of Negotiation

    Make Them Say, "Yes": 4 Secrets of Negotiation

    Make them say, “Yes!” Did you know life is just one big negotiation? Whether it’s the job you want, or that attractive special someone on Instagram. What if I told you there is a way you can make anyone say yes? Check out these four secrets of negotiation. 

    #1: Look Good, But Not Too Good 

    Did you know, no one likes a 10? Hard truth: no one really liked the prettiest girl in school, they liked her slightly less attractive best friend more. When you are too attractive, people regard you as competition which will have them betting against you, not for you. The key to negotiating is to get the other person feeling like you are on their team (in their ball-park of attractiveness.) 

    Your best bet is to look only slightly better than the person you’re trying to convince. Make others feel like they are lucky to have you, and it will have them saying, “yes” simply because it’s human nature to place trust in attainably attractive people  

    #2: Be Well-Spoken 

    Do you sound like you’re from an inner city or a rural area? People judge you based on how you speak. Drawing out unnecessary syllables will make you come across as “country” or illiterate. Speaking too fast or using profanity will make it seem as though you don’t have an expansive vocabulary.

    When you are not well spoken in a negotiation room it sends a signal to others that perhaps you are easily manipulated. They will try to speak over your head as a means to insult you or cut you an unfair deal.  

    To improve your speech, record yourself reading aloud so that you can perfect your rhythm and vocabulary. So, the next time you walk into a negotiation room you’ll be so well spoken and respected that they can’t help but tell you, “Yes!” 

    #3: Add Value 

    What novelty do you bring to the table? Sad truth: most people are simply ordinary. So, if you want to be extraordinary then you need to surpass the average. Over 70% of Americans are overweight, if you want to be set apart then be a part of the 30% who are not overweight. The average man reports that millennial women are hard to approach or rude in some fashion. So, if you walk around humble, smiling and gracious then you automatically are set apart.  

    A huge part of “value” is determined by rarity. The rarer you become, the more valuable you are. Become the rarest person your group of friends, significant other, and employer has ever met and you will have them saying, “Yes!” like never before 

      

    #4: Ask for More Than What You Want 

    This is the same concept of, “If you reach for the stars you’ll at least land on the moon.” If you’re okay with getting $60,000 on your job; then, ask for $68,000.  

     

    Asking for more than what you really want creates a seemingly win-win scenario, because it allows you to come across as flexible while also allowing the other person to flex their negotiating skills. When you finally meet “in the middle” you’ll actually be getting what you’ve wanted all along. 

    Thank you so much for reading! For more life hacks check out my audiobook Clean Mirrors. As always, share this with a friend who needs to hear this. We’ll talk soon.  

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