The Girl No One Likes: The Pretty Truth
Is it hard for you to keep friends, a significant other (trust me I feel you on this one.), or do you consistently get looked over in your job? Maybe you’re the girl no one likes. Here’s the pretty truth:
#1: Do You Take Up Space?
Shy and timid is so last season. Haven’t you heard? Confident and self-assured is in. No one likes the girl who blends into the background. It sends a signal that perhaps you don’t want to be seen. If you don’t want to even be seen then why should anyone else in the room respect you?
I know that sounds harsh, but that’s how people think. Whenever the temptation to shrink yourself begins to creep in and choke you; just remember, you are worthy to be in all high places and social events. Sit up Straight, shoulders back, and act like you’re somebody
#2: Are You Thirsty?
Are we still using the word “thirsty” in 2021? Either way, don’t be it. Sometimes when we’ve experienced seasons of severe rejection, we tend to adopt the spirit of desperation. You know that group of girls don’t really like you; stop inserting yourself into their weekend fun. You know that job will replace you at the drop of a dime; stop working weekends trying to impress your higher-ups when you can use that energy to create something you can’t be fired from. We end up being so thirsty for a “yes” that we end up settling for a maybe.
Maybe this group of girls will finally accept me if I show them how funny and outgoing I am. Maybe if I work on weekends, it’ll show my boss that I’m worthy of a raise. The truth: people like those who have standards, not those who place their self-respect up for collateral. Have the courage to wait for your “yes” so that you can avoid being the thirsty girl no one respects.
#3: Do You Talk Too Much?
We’ve heard the saying, “Never show your cards first.” When you talk too much you could be offending someone with your strong opinion (I had to learn this the hard way), or you could be giving someone the blueprint to your heart prematurely. No one likes this girl, because she ruins the fun of getting to know her.
If you want to build and keep lasting relationships learn to listen more than you speak. It is human nature to want to feel seen and heard. Use that to your advantage by allowing others to talk until their heart’s content. Then, you can be the one to decide if you like them, not the other way around.
#4: Can You Pass the Mirror Test ?
We often see ourselves in a much brighter light than society does. For example, most women don’t know when they’re dressing promiscuous; they think it’s “cute/trendy.” Most people don’t realize when they’re being annoying; they think they’re just having fun. Get in the habit of seeing yourself from the outside in. The best way to do this is to people watch.
The next time you’re out at brunch or going for a walk. Look around you. Look at the girls who you would be friends with? How do they dress? How do they behave? Look at the girls who you would hate for your son to bring home. How do they dress? How do they behave? If you’re honest with yourself, which group do you look the most like? No one likes the girl who isn’t self-aware.
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